REBUILD YOURSELF AFTER GETTING CRUSHED | SIMPLE STEPS FOR A GREAT COMEBACK

Don’t let it come as a surprise when someone tries to bring you down. There’s a lot more selfish than selfless in the world.... and this fact shouldn’t be alarming either or cause one to become anxious. You can be standing in a massive audience of one million people where only 2% are good and you’ll attract the 2%, if, the quality of your thoughts and emotions are good. For that, you must guard your emotions, heart, and soul. The word guard means to defend and protect with diligence. I think about a warrior with a shield, helmet, and sharp pointy sword, defending himself. Not allowing anything or anyone to hurt him. Have you been guarding your heart?

Most good quality people make the mistake of thinking everyone is like them. As a result, they end up becoming like those who hurt them as they unconsciously allowed anger and bitterness to permeate their minds, and with time, their spirit also becomes corrupt. If you are one of the good quality people I just mentioned, who has continuously allowed others to plant their evil seeds within, you can always begin to yank out every weed of deception from the root, one at a time.

To recreate, purify, upgrade, and solidify your identity that will lead you to attract the right people into your life who will contribute to your growth and happiness, I suggest doing the following. Don’t skip steps either and commit to following through with great intention.

1. Ask yourself and write it down, “What good purpose does it serve me to hold onto the negative emotions which were planted within me?” You’ll discover, you won’t come up with not even one reason to hold on.

2. Ask yourself and write it down, “What good purpose does it serve me to let go of these emotions?”

3. Ask yourself and write it down, “What will continue to become of my life if I hold on to these negative emotions?”

4. Forgive yourself for allowing others to hurt you. You were only doing what you knew how to do. You now know more, so now you can do more.

5. Forgive the ones who hurt you. Click here to see my article on how to forgive.

6. Write in detail how you would like to feel, think, and act.

7. Every day, morning and before going to sleep, revise this list.

8. Take about 5-10 minutes a day to visualize the man or woman you described yourself becoming.

9. Before starting your day, consciously, firm and boldly, tell yourself: “I will make a diligent effort to think, feel, speak, and behave like the man or woman I described above.”

10. Put a stop to anyone who is mistreating you. Have the conversations. Don’t fear to have the conversations, but do fear continuing to allow the mistreatment. The pain gets worse and your identity will continue to bleed until there is no return to sanity. If someone tries to take from your peace of mind, put a stop to it, without allowing anger to take over you. You’re human, so it’s okay to bend, but don’t break.

11. Every night, take written notes of progress you’re seeing in your behavior and way of thinking. Also, write down the setbacks and how you would handle the situation or person that caused you to become anxious.

12. Be patient with yourself and remember, it’s a process.

Remember this, good relationships aren’t found, they’re attracted. You must first clean out the garbage of negative emotions, magnify upon all the goodness within you, and learn to think, feel, act and speak like the people you are wanting to attract into your life. Like anything else in life, it’s a process. If you’re persistent in following through with all of the above, in a few months, you’ll find yourself surrounded by amazing people and you’ll discover, negativity will hardly come your way.

If you’re having a difficult time performing any of the above steps, I highly suggest you hire a Lifecoach which will assist, believe in, and empower you to follow through and lead you to the life you truly deserve. That doesn’t have to be me, but get yourself someone who knows how to perform a successful emotional surgery. I’ve been hurt so many times, I lost count and let me tell you, it’s not easy to reshape a wonder identity as you may have already discovered! The key is patience and self-love. We only live once! We shouldn’t have to settle for anything less than what we deserve, are destined to have, and...are...WORTH! You’re BEAUTIFUL, don’t allow pain to convince you otherwise.