LOVE IS A BATTLE FIELD | HOW TO WIN IN THE BATTLE OF LOVE

Love is a battlefield, where you have the few who fight for love and the many who destroy it. Few destroy love intentionally, most unintentionally. Most who are getting hurt are also doing it unintentionally. Unintentionally because most are only doing what little they know. One of my famous quotes says, “People are only doing what they know how to do with what they currently possess.”

Many people out there are hurting others or allowing themselves to be hurt, and they’re only doing it because they honestly don’t know how to do more.

Most couples discover they chose the wrong person at the wrong time after being together for about 6 months and on. Then they try to force it to work out by compromising and settling for less than what they’re are worth and have the potential of becoming, because of fear and for all the wrong reasons, in the name of love and what religions and therapists and coach’s say they must do.

This is not to say that if you’re having problems in a relationship that you can’t save it. Simply saying many can’t be resolved to the level of what a relationship should truly be.

What should a relationship truly be? A relationship is a firm bond, held by love and love to one’s self, mutuality, understanding, emotional intelligence, insight, and selflessness. In this relationship, I speak about exists full trust and zero jealousy or insecurities. There are romance and intimacy, sexually and emotionally. Communication is clearer than water. Both support, understand and contribute to each other’s dreams and purposes. Both are constantly growing and making each other feel significant. So significant they have no need to seek validation, attention, and or love elsewhere. Where God is placed in the middle of their everyday lives and decisions.

Most who have been hurt don’t possess enough love for themselves. They don’t know what love truly is because they never witnessed it growing up or perhaps did, but didn’t know how to discern between a good and an amazing person, and were then taken advantage of or mistreated once or a few times, therefore associated love with pain. Sad thing is that for most who fall into this category, will continue to attract the same quality of people until they’ve been hurt so many times. So hurt that they will decide to stay single until the day they pass. Few of this category will even take their very own lives and or simply allow themselves to be mistreated, rejected, and taken advantage of for the rest of their lives as their mind becomes addicted to the pain. They become slaves to their very own pain and to those who feed off of seeing others hurt.

This is why I live for the latter category of people I described and take my purpose so seriously because I thirst to help them to come back to life. I’ve been hurt and taken from in my personal and business life. I know the feeling. I know self-defeat, he used to be my best friend and worst enemy. I understand how hard is to get yourself back up and begin to evolve into the person you are intended to become, after having yourself to be crushed by the grip of evil.

There’s a timing for everything in life. When things aren’t falling into place for us, it’s simply because our timing is off and or we aren’t developed enough to make the right decisions. Decisions which will lead us to the right time and moment when we will begin attracting and meet the right people.

What do I mean by “right” people? I mean those who will contribute to our growth, happiness, and life, without taking away in exchange for what they have given us.

You must be wise on the battlefield of love. Before getting back on that battlefield of love, I highly suggest you:

• Take the time to discover who you truly are and develop into the person you would love to spend the rest of your life with.

• Take the time to heal. Much goes into the healing process but is rather easy to do with the right guidance. For empowering to healing contact me. On average it takes me about 1-7 hours to empower one to heal.

• Take the time to describe and understand what love truly is.

• Take the time to describe exactly what kind of person you desire to be with.

• Take the time to assess, dissect, and learn from your past relationships. What red flags did you miss?

• Visualize the person you desire to be with, every day, for at least 5 minutes.

• Learn to ask the right questions upon meeting someone for the first time. It’s important you discover who someone truly is before becoming emotionally attached. Once you are attached emotionally, you’ll begin to over see red flags and make excuses for irrational behaviors.

This last step is a very important one:

• As new people introduce themselves to you, be quick to refer back to the person you described. If they don’t fit that description, nicely and elegantly let them know they are not what you’re looking for in a man or woman. If you allow people who don’t fit the description of what you said you want into your life, you are slowing down the process to attract the right person you described. Additionally, you are telling the universe to send you more of what you accepted. Be patient. If you lose patience, you may have more developing to do. More love to self, more understanding of the above process. If you’re having a hard time with this step, more than likely, you have not executed more than one of the above. Contact me if this is you and are frustrated by attracting the same type of people who don’t add to your life and make you miserable.

If you’ve lost a battle, are serious about picking yourself back up and discovering who you truly are, contact me.

If you’ve lost a battle and accomplished to get back up, I honor you. Tell us a little or as much as you’d like about your story in the comments below. Your success stories have the power to empower others in pain to begin taking necessary steps to begin evolving into the beautiful human they were destined to become.